It's probably a good thing I'm not posting now. Between all the questionable things being discussed in the different Yahoo groups, and the five or six months without a referral, I'm not feeling very optimistic about completing an adoption in Vietnam. I'm going to try to update monthly until things pick up or there is a major update.
As I said earlier, I'm not feeling very optimistic about things right now. I'm coming up on finishing month four of the wait and I've only moved up because of families leaving our agency. There have not been any referrals since January, I think. Sigh. With the decreased optimism, comes the decrease of any preparations. I've stopped shopping, thinking about putting a nursery together, and I really don't talk about it much anymore. I recently went to a party where a lot of my sister's friends were there. My sister has told pretty much all of her friends, so of course they wanted to ask me about it. I was so touched by their questions, interest, and support! I am truly blessed by the people people that surround me! On the other hand it was very difficult to say over and over that the six to nine month wait to referral I was quoted has been changed to 12 to 18 months. I was pretty emotionally exhausted when I left the party.
One thing I'm still doing is reading a lot of adoption blogs. I've saved all the blogs I read in a folder in FireFox and every day when I get home from work I open all the pages in the folder. It's pretty easy to go through and close blogs that haven't updated in the past few days (such as my own!) I'm very excited about the new run of referrals that have come through. Congratulations new mommies and daddies! Until next month...
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I hope that you and the others waiting get good news this month.
I can really identify with so much of what you're going through right now. Like you said - with so much happening on the groups, and lack of progress with some agenices, I really start to wonder if this is really going to happen. But hopefully we both will start to see progress soon! I'm hoping that with the infamous "March changes" we'll start to see things cleaned up, and a more equal distribution of referrals and such. Don't give up hope yet - we'll get there (ok, trying to believe that anyway!). Good luck -
I have been down that waiting forever road.... not fun. But, our agency added a new orphanage to the ones they work with and boom, flood gates opened for us.
Hang in there, she will be worth this wait.
I really hope things get moving for you.
I understand about the waiting, and I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. It really stinks! Having said that, though, you never know when things will start moving. When they do, I promise you that everything you have gone through will be SO worth it.
i hope you hear some good news very soon!
Thank you for the kind comments you left me. I hope that good news comes your way soon!
Hang in there Cara. It is so difficult. I have feeling that we will see some progress soon. We have to see progress soon.
Col
sorry about the wait. It is never easy. Why the dry spell?
I just found your blog on Mrs Broccoli Guy's adoption roll, and enjoyed reading your story. Thanks! I think I'll follow along, and know that you have lots of support out there.
Cerise
http://rothvinson.blogspot.com
Waiting is noooooo fun! I'm sorry this is taking so very long. Keep up hope, it's really all we have while we wait. Oh yeah, shop and decorate the nursery too, it got me through a good 6+ months.
Hang in there, friend. I understand your frustration, and I, too, am wore out from explaining the ever growing wait to family and friends. Since we moved, I haven't done one lick of work in the baby's room....these days I can't bear to go in there. I am praying for you and hoping that things begin to move for both of us!
Here's the understatement of the year: Waiting sucks! Luckily, we can all keep each other "floating" until good news comes! Hoping it's soon for you.
-Anne, PAP
mntovn.blogspot.com
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